Bringing SEXY back!!!!!

Looking for place to indulge those guilty pleasures, without judgement? Tired of feeling like you are in an episode of "Cheers" where you know everyone and everybody knows your name? Want to have that same feeling of when you first been to a club? Come experience why this event is too good to tell everyone. Become an exclusive member of the truly "grown and sexy". Enjoy that same electric atmosphere and ecstatic vibe as you once had without the pressure of feeling like you did this before. So take that vow of silence, and keep this society a secret.

NYCs Hottest Promoters presents
Secret Saturdays
(every 1st Saturday) *June 6th, 2009*

This month is a Red and White Affair Hosted by the citys hottest new premiere modelSunshine of Norma Jeanz
Some of the proceeds will be donated to the Aids Association
Rotating top DJs of the tristate area.
Ladies $10 all night, gents reduced on guestlist.
The Two Eighteen Lounge
218 Lafayette St and Spring St
For Bdays, Bottle Specials, and to reserve a table,RSVP at dgpent@gmail.com

Under My Belt

Hey people...I have been MIA for the whole month of March..Went to LA, had some revelations, made new friends, and lost some(def something to write about)...New Blogs coming real soon....

Drop Them D's

Desire- a longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment

There are many things that we want for ourselves. Better jobs, a raise from our existing jobs, a commitment, better eating habits, a relationship. How do you obtain these things if your desire to do so lacks something? How do you get the courage to go after what you yearn for? It’s a deep sensation at the pit of your stomach that you can't seem to manifest. It’s in your thoughts day and night. So what do you do? How do you make that desire into reality? You have to possess the passion, the ability, the confidence to reach for the stars. It sits in everyone’s core waiting for that day that you make that step.

Determination- the act of coming to a decision or of fixing or settling a purpose.

You want that raise, how do confront your boss? You want that next step towards a relationship? You know it’s well deserved but your holding back for possible fear, maybe rejection. The same goes with taking anything you need to the next level. Fear that "no" will be implemented, but when did taking a chance have a two letter word behind it. If you believe, you can achieve anything you want. You have to have that fire that runs through your blood to make that next move. It’s as simple as making that next chess move, but you have to be diligent and prepared for the win or loss. But if every aspect of your being thinks the "no" factor will constantly be imprinted then that will always be the end result.


Dedication- the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action

So now that you took the desire to go for what you want, your determination to strive for that excellence to achieve your goal. Will you take what you have and put your all into what you want? Will you devote your heart and conquer that step that you worked so hard for? Are you willing to make sacrifices for the sake of better? It takes heart and courage to be the best at everything you do. But you have to have the will and drive in order to progress. In order to succeed, but will your desire, determination and dedication lead to the thing you fear the most: Discipline.

Discipline- activity, exercise, or a regimen that develops or improves a skill; training

So now that one has come to the root of what the problem was, where does one take it? Do you sit and wait to just see what happens? Or do you take all that has been incorporated in your being and work at nothing but the best. We sometimes get sidetracked with the entire negative, never looking at the positive that already sits in front of our door. But the question I have asked myself is when do we stop running? When do you take control of the uncontrolled? Knowing that what you thought was best was just plain old stupidity. So you encompass that behavior over and over again, lacking the qualities just because your direction is fogged up. So you take the guidance, the advice, the hard truth and now you come to accomplish that goal that your heart has seeked. You’re at a better place, more secure, stable, not afraid of the unknown, but will that strive keep you balanced? Or will you be check mate? Only you can take control of your life, only you can lead yourself to fulfillment, only you can have the desire, determination, dedication and discipline to make that nothing into something. ONLY YOU!!!!

White women's opinion of black women & a brother's response

Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep!

Thumbs up to this black man.Enjoy.

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!

Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black malereaders. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantlyapproached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.

Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jo nes, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney, Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA

RESPONSE

Dear Jamie:I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job a t a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women.

Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control.

A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight.

I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.

I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stopthinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.Read your history!It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman........And, through all this, Still They Rise!

It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could> never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks.

If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts withunnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.No offense taken, none given.

Signed, Black Royalty

Reflecting..PT 2...Moving Forward

Reflecting- To give evidence of the characteristics or qualities of someone or something

You're the only one I wish I could forget

The only one I love to not forgive

And though you break my heart

You're the only one

Broken Hearted by Beyonce

We begin with the process of accepting things for what they are. So now that we have released all those ill thoughts, negative tension. Have you let it go?

Now what? Where do you go from here is now your choice. Not decision because based on your next action, your life can either blossom or stagger. You can’t keep asking where you went wrong. You now look forward to what lies ahead.

Do you take time out to know the importance of what is needed? Of true self? Yes. I did. A long time! Yes, I know (some still don't believe me), to just reflect on who you are. And for the record, best decision I've ever made. (Well besides being saved) We forget about the little things when trying to please another, or too focused on what this and that one is doing.

Have you ever felt that all you do is give and give? Or think what happen to me? Why is this happening to me? But why not let it happen to you. These experiences are the most rewarding you will ever get out of life. It strengths you, encourages you, uplifts you. Its like breathing fresh air.

Take this moment and ask yourself these questions: what makes you laugh? Cry? (Besides a break-up) what are your likes? Dislikes? Do you know? Once you come to the conclusion of those questions, watch and see this person blossom into the person you need to be. I call it the butterfly effect. For what was just a little bit, after nourishment and love becomes a beautiful creature.

Can I tell you a secret? A man I've known for almost my entire life just found out my likes and dislikes. That says a lot doesn't it? Some are just so absorbed in their own s*** that they never sit back and just appreciate the minor things in life.

That is probably one of the saddest parts of ones being, to not reflect on all the things, past, present, and near future. To just embrace it with open arms. Not saying this will be an easy process, but it’s your test. Feeling trapped in your own being, not knowing what tomorrow holds, depending on others for critics. This can put an individual down. True story.

But there is always room for improvement but there has to be improvise, because no matter what age, learning is a process that should truly be appreciated. Its a great feeling to know something that you just didn't know a second ago. To share your experiences and thoughts with others. To one day know that your story will be another’s encouragement.

That's when you know you have released the situation, the people,the confusion.

INTERESTING INTERVIEW....

This interview was very informative. It brought depth to those that don't know who Lil Wayne is. Brought a different aspect as to the "Bad Ass". In all, even my co-worker who, when listens to him on the radio makes me change the station, saw a different light to him. She said " he's actually quite an intelligent man". Now I started laughing, only because if you knew her..Let's just say, very OLD school...LOL... I guess it's true what they say, "You can't JUDGE a book by its COVER. Can't wait to see his performance at the grammys.